A new Story
Created by Nick 11 years ago
Obituary: Gillian Allison Owen (born Darwent)
11/9/1961-12/6/2009
“For thy sweet love remember’d such wealth brings,
That then I scorn to change my state with kings.”
William Shakespeare
Gill was not a perfect human being, but she aspired to be one. She was a brilliant, inspiring,
compassionate teacher of English Literature, and a wonderful wife and mother.
She won many honours. At seven years of age she wrote a short story good enough to win an
adult writing competition. She won a place at Wadham College, Oxford, where she studied
under Terry Eagleton. In her twenties she was judged “best young teacher in the west of
England” while an English teacher and head of Drama at Helston School in Cornwall. She
became Assistant Chief Examiner for the Cambridge Board of Examiners while working at
Ernesford Grange Comprehensive School in Coventry. Yet her expectations of herself were so
great that she felt a failure in not becoming something like a minister for education. She was
very frustrated that her health was never robust enough for her to advance further with her
career.
These very real achievements were small victories compared to the winning of the hearts and
minds of so many children, where she particularly excelled in bringing a passion for
Shakespeare to disadvantaged children from the inner city. Working for the Prince’s Trust, she
ensured that large numbers of Coventry children had the chance to see Shakespeare
performed at Stratford. More controversially, she was persuaded to write the first SATS paper
on Shakespeare for the National Curriculum.
Perhaps her finest achievement came last spring, working at the Oxford Community School. In
just three months she took her group of children to an extraordinary level of performance in the
regional competition of the project “Stand up for Shakespeare” run by the Royal Shakespeare
Company. It was what Peter Brooke called “Holy Theatre,” an improvisation based on many
Shakespeare plays, which focused on Shakespeare’s fools and the skull of Yorick. Two of her
students were chosen to be part of the first National Youth Ensemble at the R.S.C, performing
at Stratford and working alongside people like David Tennant.
There has been a terrible price to pay for her meteoric career. Gill burned out. She always
pushed herself harder than her vulnerable physical frame would allow. She had survived the
loss of two brothers in the womb. It left her with an undiagnosed heart defect and an overactive
brain. It is only now with major breakthroughs in prenatal and perinatal psychology and
psycho-neuro-immunology that we are beginning to realise the effects of very early
experiences on our later lives and how to respond to them therapeutically. We are compelled,
like characters in Shakespearian tragedy, to act out these early imprints in our grown up
relationships. Gill found the template for her lost brothers in two intensely close friends at
school, Geoffrey Quilley and Tristan Humphries. Tristan became a famous painter, perhaps
best known for his portrait of the prime minister of Australia, and Geoff became a leading art
historian at the London Maritime Museum. Gill married Geoff but remained very close to
Tristan.
After Tristan died, Gill began a major project in his memory using both literature and visual art
around the theme of an early English alphabet and associated texts. I quote from one of the
works:
“D” was a drunk and had a red face, is on the covering cloth. On the glass below “If sack and
sugar be a fault God help the wicked” is inscribed above a model of Falstaff, tucked inside a
wooden box, surrounded by many bottles. Tristan died very young and tragically from alcohol
abuse. Geoff then abandoned Gill and her two small boys for Tristan’s widow. Gill never fully
recovered from the recapitulated twin abandonment. She could not bear to survive again
alone. Her heart and mind were cracked if not yet broken.
She was unable to work for a while, returning to live in Surrey with her parents. Then she
worked part time as educational consultant and then teacher at the The Warwick School.
She recovered enough to marry Nick Owen, a poet, psychotherapist and photographer, in
2004 in a druid ceremony among the megaliths of Avebury at the winter Solstice. Together
Nick and Gill founded “Wychwood Poetry and Pictures,” a group for people creating art work
including both visual and literary media. She moved to Over Norton in Oxfordshire and took a
job at the Oxford Community School. Her health increasingly began to fail her, and she missed
many lessons. Yet in spite of this limited attendance one of the school’s leadership team
members observed that she had never known a teacher so beloved by both students and
colleagues.
She saddled herself with too much of the burden of shame and guilt the school felt in failing to
reach Government performance targets. She was an old fashioned teacher, brilliant,
inspirational, committed to reach the hearts and minds of even the most damaged Afghan
asylum seekers. She drew raw real poetry from children who hardly knew how to write English.
She could never have become a “curriculum deliverer” in a New Labour dystopia.
In December last year she had a heart attack, and although she recovered enough to begin
work again part time, her heart kept failing her.
Time away from work at least enabled her to connect ever more deeply with husband Nick and
her sons, Joel and Caleb. On Friday 12 of June 2009, she died very suddenly, while preparing
for a dinner party.
“Out, out brief candle”
She is deeply missed. Her alphabet remains to be finished by her family.